设置限制。结束一场喧闹的比赛。对你的孩子说不。
让孩子失望或生气可能很难，心理学家玛德琳·莱文(Madeline Levine)说，但纪律是养育子女的重要组成部分。
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“父母有两个工作——爱他们的孩子和管教他们。纪律意味着设定限制。当我们认为这一切都是关于养育和爱的时候，我们就错了——这是育儿中温暖、美味的部分。真正困难的部分是，当你关掉游戏插头，或者你说，‘你不能出去’，或者‘你做了什么事，所以这个周末你拿不到钥匙’，你的孩子会对你大发雷霆。好的。你是成年人。它们正在发展中。你必须能够容忍他们的愤怒。好吧?是很困难的。 It’s so easy, you know, when they’re grown and out of the house to offer all this opinion. But I do think that’s a huge issue. I think moms, because they have — my next book is on moms — I think, because they have so little support in the community, and the community is so competitive, that mothers have very little support outside the family. And so the kids become their go-to people. And your go-to people, you don’t want really pissed off at you all the time. So you avoid conflict with them.”
